Time to be honest.
I’ll probably never stop cussing or quit drinking. And I’ll definitely never exercise everyday or lose enough weight. My previous New Year’s resolutions never stood a chance. Why? Because I didn’t care enough to stick to them.
Earlier this week, the world said goodbye to 2012 and celebrated the beginning of a New Year. These past couple of days, I (much like many others) have been inundated with people asking me the same question:
What’s your New Year’s resolution?
It seems a common motto during this time of year is “new year, new beginning.” Everybody wants 2013 to be the year they make better choices, kill bad habits, get healthy, get a promotion, get a boyfriend, get a girlfriend, get married… or just get something new, different and better. As I listen to the endless dissertations about what those around me want to achieve in 2013, I can’t help but wonder:
Why don’t we ever think about what we can give in the New Year?
I’ll be the first to admit that I’m also guilty of the same lack. I find the beginning of a new year is a very selfish time. It’s all about me, me, me and what I can do better for me this year.
I abandoned the notion of New Year’s resolutions years ago when I realized that I had no will power (or gave enough of a rat’s ass) to keep them. I’ve notoriously failed at my resolutions. And let’s face it, so have you.
Why? Because you’re not accountable to anyone but yourself. And if you let yourself down, it’s okay because you’ll forgive yourself. However, when you’re accountable to others, suddenly there’s pressure not to fail. So this year, I’m challenging myself to ask this question:
What can I do better for others this year?
That’s a challenge I think many of us should take on. I’ll start by declaring my 2013 goals.
I want this year to be about family, friendships and balance. I want to be a better wife and make my husband the happiest he’s ever been. I want to be a more generous friend who makes time for others. And I want to practice balance, so the people I love will know they’re more important to me than my career or any other material gain.
Like I said, none of my previous resolutions stood a chance. But this one… who knows, this one might.