Why do couples fight? Not enough sex and not enough money

Google’s autocomplete feature on their search bar makes me laugh sometimes. I’m a sucker for “how-to” articles and blog posts, such as “how to make Parmesan chicken” or “how to style my hair for a wedding” or “how to grow marijuana.” (Kidding, I know how to make Parmesan chicken.)

Today, out of curiosity I wanted to know what Google considers popular or helpful searches that start with “how to get my husband to…” Lo and behold, the options that came up were:


Immediately I thought, “Women are really searching for advice on how to get their husbands to perform oral sex on them?” Turns out, yes. This search generated about 213,000,000 results with articles and discussions entitled, “Husband won’t go down on me… what do I do?” and “Is it normal that my husband won’t go down on me ever?”

My curiosity led me to conduct a similar search for “how to get my wife to…” I figured husbands must be asking the same question. I mean, what guy wouldn’t ask, right?

Turns out, no. Instead, what I found was:


(Side note: the fact that 2 of the 4 suggestions were about getting your wife to love you again is just plain sad. It makes me wonder: Are today’s marriages really that tarnished?)

Most of the search suggestions were similar. However, rather than asking the same question about “going down,” it appears that husbands are more interested in learning how to get their wives to stop spending money! 

So it comes down to sex and money – which so happen to be the 2 main answers to the question “why do couples fight?” Experts say that sex and money are the top reasons for infidelity and divorce.

I’m a strong believer that you and your significant other must be on the same page regarding those 2 issues in order to last. By no means am I a relationship expert. I’m stumbling through this much like others are. But what I have learned is if you and your spouse agree on how to spend and save money, and you have regular (and I mean regular) sex with each other, the house is a happy home.

Just something to think about.


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    • Pauline on February 3, 2013 at 1:25 pm
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    I 100% agree… Happy sex / spending means happy life

    1. Isn’t that the truth? Thanks for the comment, Pauline 🙂 Don’t forget to subscribe and visit again. Talk soon!

  1. I am recently separated after an 18 year marriage and unfortunately both were factors in our separation. I have been doing a great deal of research on relationships and reconciliation and have learned that both partners need to be open and honest with what they are truly thinking. Ask ourselves what we want and need from the relationship and each other before we all end up on Google asking for break up advice and or how to get your ex back when it’s probably too late.
    Shane recently posted…Getting It On vs. Getting It Over With: How Reasons for Having Sex Impact Relationships (Part 1)

    1. I agree that both partners need to be part of relationship reconciliation. Thanks for stopping by my blog, Shane. Really appreciate it. Best of luck with your future relationships. 🙂

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